Several years ago, I realized that I had much better end-of-day conversations with the people in my life when we stopped asking each other, “How was your day?” Instead, we started asking each other, “Did anything happen at work today that you felt proud of?” This upgraded question elicited much better responses. Asking better questions provides space for deeper conversation and more authentic responses.
When I was in high school, I started reading Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance. I'll be honest - at the time I didn't get it. It was a slow read and very detail-oriented. About two-thirds of the way through, I gave up and moved on to something else (Stephen King is probable). I wasn't ready for that book. After he found out that I had quit, my dad taught me that the process is more important than the project and it completely changed my perspective.